There’s a guy I see at all the different Blues (and now Fusion) events and he’s super nice, a little quiet, and one of my favorite leads. He’s actually the first person who ever asked me to dance the first night I tried Blues.
He always asks me to dance at least once, and usually towards the end of the night when people thin out and the music gets slow, we wind up dancing 2 or 3 songs in a row to a nice Slow Drag (I would link to the wikipedia page, but their definition just makes Slow Drag sound kind of sleazy, so if you’re really interested, maybe try youtube?).
Either way, he’s just nice and not intimidating at all and it’s very comforting to dance with him at the end of the night.
I went to a Fusion event a couple weekends ago and he was there it was VERY lead heavy so I didn’t sit practically the whole night and towards the end of the night he snagged me and we wound up dancing a slow song together. He pulled me into a closed embrace and leaned our heads together, tucked my hand into his and let them fall to our sides. We kind of just swayed there talking. It was relaxing and a nice break from the high energy of the night.
The song ended and since we were still talking I asked if he wanted to go another round. He did and we picked up where we left off.
I mentioned he did a lot of different dance events.
Then he mentioned he didn’t really come for the dancing. He spun me and then back with his head next to mine said he came to “see what his options are.”
INSERT THE SOUNDS OF SCREECHING TIRES HERE.
Now, in my mind, I’m like “IS THAT WHAT THIS IS??? AM I AN OPTION???? ABORTABORTABORT!!!” The cozy snuggle took on a new meaning.
Outwardly, we continue our endless bluesy circles on the floor and I pipe up:
“I come to events because I’m using it as therapy for my crippling Agoraphobia!”
There was a long pause before he asked if that was like Claustrophobia.
At which point I began with “That IS a common misconception but-” and followed with the DSM definition in a rambling deluge.
Needless to say, that was the last time we danced that night and he got REALLY quiet after that.
The good news is, I now have a tried and true method for shutting down a potentially awkward romantic approach.
I may think you’re hot.
I may be ABSOLUTELY BATSH!T!!!
Can’t go wrong.